It is a common trend to see young girls now termed as "Slay Queens/Slay Mama" all over the social media strike all manner of poses in pictures and sharing on their handles to attract toasters and randy men who are lurking all around looking for the next target to have a fling with,the sad narrative is that the young ladies involved find it as a mad fun but sooner than later it gets to a point where to find a man to put that dream ring on their finger become a herculean task.
Mrs Christie Nanji Andrew JP shares her word with us.
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!(???)
This may not be the best time for me to write on this because
of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push.
"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced
by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are
prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting
our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers,
was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or,
maybe there were more
men than women then, or there was an adequate
corresponding numbers of both genders.
I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were
prepared to build a home and not park into a built home.
Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed
himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the
woman really appreciates him
and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to
say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for
ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl
to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to
be tall, handsome, fair, and
rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she
adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then,
check the number of girls around you and the number of men
that meet that standard, and you will see the problem.
You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and
then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful
dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you
want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the
table turns around, then comes
suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it
is good to start small and end big, than start
big and end small. The problem is that the description
majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same.
When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that
fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick
one. Then, what becomes of 49
others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard,
due to the face of our economy to find a man
who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these
ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud);
even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to
match all those searching for already made husbands.
If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good
value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man
who has prospects, are married and not complaining of
husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is
to change your view of who a
husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw
that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for
making him, without a help mate and then made the woman
and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE
IS NOT A POVERTY
ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family
of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way
out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME
BUILDERS, not HOME
WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS
DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where
God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that
YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS
DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband
scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that
you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of
marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am
saying is that you should stop setting your standard on
material acquisitions or physical.appearances. Look beyond
the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT
HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP
OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with
the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a
permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which
is not seen is permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer. God
did not just make Eve for making sake; He made her for
Adam's need to be met. May Almighty show us our right partners, Amen.
#Mrs Christie Nanji Andrew JP
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